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Laura Perrins: Advocates of ‘open marriage’ are hypocrites


I have been very busy lately desperately deleting my details from the recently hacked online adultery facilitator website Ashley Madison. That is not true, of course, and I have very little sympathy for those that do indeed believe that “Life is Short. Have an affair.” These adulterers deserve what is coming to them.

The threat to release the details of millions of adulterers have prompted some to pour more scorn on the ‘outdated’ concept of marriage. Why bother, they ask. Hot on the heels of ‘gay marriage’, we have the ultimate oxymoron of ‘open marriage.’

Tracey Cox in The Daily Mail explains the open marriage for us slow learner traditionalists. “We’re all aware (and most highly suspicious) of this one: two people who want to be married but don’t want to be sexually faithful.” Suspicious indeed, and disapproving – this is also known as having your cake and eating it.

At the weekend we had the New York Times magazine breathlessly telling us about a husband who has no problem with his wife sleeping with other men and sharing the details. This makes him a feminist he explains.

Yet another reason why I do not call myself one. I always hated sharing and I don’t plan on sharing my delightful husband with anyone.

No doubt we will get the usual liberal nonsense of, what is it to you what others get up to in the bedroom, it is none of your business: bring on the ‘open marriage.’

If I have said it before I have said it a thousand times – marriage is public business, it is a public commitment and you receive public privileges because of the promise to remain faithful. By taking these vows you make it our business and if you believe you are too much of sex kitten to be faithful so be it. Share it around if you must but do not call it marriage.

The open marriage advocates want all the dignity that marriage confers and the photo in the cute little church. They accept gifts form family and friends on the basis that they will forsake all others, but now it seems they do not want any of the duties that accompany the privileges. It is a public lie and downright dishonest.

This is what distinguishes the ‘open non-marriage’ from the failed marriage. Many who entered marriage do so with the intention of remaining faithful. Sadly, they stumble along the way and have an affair. Although this has moral consequences of its own, a mistake like this is a personal failure. It makes you a sinner not a hypocrite.

To deliberately set out, however, at the altar with the intention of breaking your marriage vows makes you a liar to family and friends unless you have informed them that you have no intention of keeping said vows. Which I doubt anyone does as this will ruin the atmosphere one is striving for at one’s overly expensive non-marriage wedding.

The long march by the wreckers of the Left through the institution of marriage continues. But we are not going down without a fight. That is one vow we can keep.

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