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Laura Perrins: Face it alpha girls. You are going to have to pay the bills and settle for offcut men


Lock up your sons. The ladies are on the prowl. They are young, beautiful, educated and talented – everything a young man could want – yet for some mysterious reason, they are single. And they are not happy about it.

The Times Magazine laid out the heartache of the accomplished singletons, ‘starved of a boyfriend.’

Amber, 26, has not had a relationship for 6 years. Harriet, 27, has been single for 3 years,  “Most men at work are in relationships, as are the best ones from university.” As such, at the ripe old age of 27, she feels like you are left with – and I am not kidding here – the “offcuts.”

The writer tells us: “But, for us, being single isn’t a choice. We would all like a boyfriend, but, despite being unanimously proactive when it comes to dating, we’ve drawn a blank and can’t work out why.”

Dating apps such as Tinder are blamed for this dismal state of affairs and I am sure this is the case, as I have written elsewhere. But that is not the whole story.

Jon Birger, author of Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game, explains that because female graduates outnumber male ones and now for the first time in history women out-earn men in their twenties, there is a dearth of ‘eligible men.’

Educated women will only date their ‘equals’ because of assortative mating, and as there are now more female graduates than male, the men hold all the cards.

But the magazine never asks why women pick from this ever-shrinking pool of equally educated men. The truth is that these women, despite decades of feminism, are holding out for the alpha males who will out-earn them. These men are fewer and fewer.

These feminists want their potential mate to out-earn them, even if it is just a little. They don’t admit this but I know it is true, because they refer to all the single men out there as “offcuts.” Nice.

We also hear from, Dr Sue Johnson, ‘a clinical psychologist and the bestselling author of Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships. She blames the media and the ready availability of internet pornography for promoting ideals of masculinity that portray monogamy as restrictive and archaic.’

“We teach men that you’re a man if you sleep with three women in one night,” she explains.

Em, what’s that? Who is this ‘we’? It is not we, here at  The Conservative Woman, I can tell you that. And it is not the Christian conservatives either. That would be the liberals you are taking about, so go take it up with them.

Anyway, back to the singletons. Not only does the potential suitor have to be an alpha, but he must have very specific attributes, such ‘reading The Economist,’ and for Alex, “a keen appreciation of Tracey Emin is a prerequisite.” Maybe someone should tell Alex that the men who have a keen appreciation of Tracey Emin are gay.

Chloe says, ‘I’ve been on my own for so long that if I’m adding someone else into the mix, they need to be brilliant and …. I wouldn’t settle in my professional life, so why would I settle in my personal one?” Chloe – high on self-regard,  low on self-awareness. And she wonders why she is single!

Joe, the go-to man, calls it right. The ‘girls are too picky,’ and deep down they want a ‘provider.’ But when more and more women out-earn men, then you, dear lady, are the provider. So quit complaining and start providing. This is what you wanted, this is what the feminists have ‘fought’ for decades, so get on with it.

The alpha men who out-earn you are dwindling – you are the Alphas now so you better get used to it and start dating ‘below you’ (not my term.) You are going to have to get used to the ‘offcuts,’ if he’ll have you, after years of being ignored.

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