Plump up your cushions ConWom’ers because things are just getting better and better.
On Wednesday we were told: “All parents should receive lessons from the government on how to bring up their children, Britain’s top public health expert has urged.
Today’s young people are being neglected by “sweatshop” schools and bad parents, meaning that the State must step in to stop irreparable damage, according to John Ashton, outgoing president of the Faculty of Public Health. He said that parents needed help to prevent the next generation being crippled by conditions such as anxiety, anorexia and obesity.”
We were also told: “One child in ten has a mental health problem and a poor relationship with parents is among the main causes, said Professor Ashton, who added that health services must not be afraid to intervene in family life to head off a lifetime of suffering.”
And over what period of time has this deterioration in family life happened – ah yes, the last few decades when the feminists and then everyone in public life declared war on motherhood and the home.
When I read this, or opinion pieces that extol the virtues of Gruffalo time (reading to your children) it just makes me choke on my Cheerios.
For decades now the feminists and their facilitators in the mainstream media and politics have said parenting was easy, mothers were expendable, and there was nothing important about raising children.
Sure anyone could do it – the 17-year-old single mother or the 25-year-old nursery worker dealing with 4 or 5 two year olds. Send the mothers into the office and, ‘everything will be fine.’
So is everything fine? Is it? Not so much, “by the time children are leaving school between 10 and 15 per cent of them are in trouble emotionally or mentally and [suffer from] things like obesity, eating disorders, anxiety and stress.”
In an attempt to grab a headline no doubt, this lemming John Ashton, outgoing president of the Faculty of Public Health, thinks we are Victorian prudes and wants us to get down with the sexy talk at the breakfast table. ‘He added that parents should talk to their children at the breakfast table about sex to prevent them turning to online porn as teenagers.’
Now you might expect me to jump on this, but it is John Ashton who is the Victorian if he really thinks that English families, even middle class ones, still have breakfast together. I know, hilarious.
“In Holland, families will talk around the breakfast table about things everyone here would blush about.” Well, isn’t that just lovely for the Dutch. But in England families don’t have breakfast together. Many toddlers are in nursery from about 8am (which is not early enough if you ask Woman’s Hour– not early enough!) and the primary schools kids are at their ‘breakfast clubs’. This is confirmed by a letter to the Times editor the following day from a retired headteacher, “Some parents are so busy with work, needing two salaries to maintain their lifestyle, that the children are left in nurseries and with childminders till all hours.”
Have your silly parenting classes if you want, but the nub of the issue is that you have to have a parent – a mother preferably – around to do the actual parenting.
The first rule of parenting class should be, you will be a present parent and not a periphery parent. Obviously you cannot talk about mothers or motherhood as that makes you an extremist under the new British Values regime – in fact saying mothers should care for their pre-school children is a hate crime, pure and simple.
The feminists in their desire to push women out of their homes and away from their children had to do more than extol the virtues of the office. They had to trash motherhood as well. This policy was deliberate, intentional, political and ideological.
The results are in and the results are these – an explosion in teenage mental health issues (teenage – do we see the link?), women are now unhappier than men, and to top it all off the delicious irony is that households are now in more debt than previously. (Oh and marriage rates have tanked, a stated feminists aim) Congratulations.
Motherhood was once a very respected role as it involved raising the next generation of well-rounded citizens who would not demand a safe space every time someone challenged them on something.
Caring for their children was not the only thing mothers did, but it was their primary role. The sacrifice and responsibility that this involved was acknowledged by society until the dopey feminists came along with their propaganda that the house was a prison and husband chief jailor.
The role of mothers was not just to nurture and care for their children, but they were also the driving force in forming character, moulding morality, supervising their education and encouraging ambition while developing compassion for others.
Now ‘parenting’ is deemed another chore under the title ‘childcare’ that anyone can do. It is has about as much status as Hoovering the floor. Also, feminists love to push the idea that hands on mothering is either a luxury only the rich can afford and it has something to do with Cath Kidston and pilates classes.
So as you can imagine, it really grates to read that now that the feminists have pushed mothers out of the home suddenly this parenting lark is so very important that the State would like to pull up a chair in your living room instead. A chair vacated by mothers, thanks to the feminists.
I do not believe for one moment this occurred by accident.