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My plea for marriage


LAST Wednesday the Daily Mail devoted its front page splash to the news that a majority of babies are being born out of wedlock for the first time since records began in 1845.

According to figures from the Office for National Statistics, in 2021 624,828 live births were registered in England and Wales, which included ‘320,713 live births to women who were not married or in a civil partnership when they gave birth – 51.3 per cent of the total.’ This compares with 304,115 live births to parents who were married or in a civil partnership. 

The news was depressing and shocking. Shocking in that it neither made the headlines elsewhere nor attracted concerned comment. Yet what it revealed was how selfish, adult centric and casual our society’s become – that it no longer believes or understands why marriage commitment should be the prerequisite of childbirth – not even ideally. It begged the fundamental question of whether a child is no longer deemed significant enough to bother to commit to a contract over, to secure the legal and moral responsibility for it of the mother and father. So when the producer/director of GB News’s Colin Brazier show asked me if there was anything in particular I felt strongly about (what a question!) that I’d like to give vent to on their Speaker’s Corner spot, I had my answer ready. Marriage and why it matters. I was given only a few minutes and about 400 words to make my case, and here it is:

You can watch the full programme which includes further discussion of the topic (plus me sounding off on other matters too) here:

There is obviously still so much more to be said about the causes and consequences of marriage’s downward trajectory, in terms of taxation and government’s childcare and ‘equality’ policies as well as the insidious cultural Marxist anti-family pro-totalitarian state creep through all our institutions. You can find our past publications here and here. 

The increased number of lone-parent families, 2.9 million of them by 2020, is not just ‘one of the most significant social trends to have occurred over the last thirty years’ as the statisticians euphemism goes. The fact that today one-in-four children live in a lone-parent family compared to just one 1-in-20 in the late 1970s marks a veritable revolution that’s happened under our eyes and has proved a disaster for children.

One reason has been the precious little equality for the couple who want to marry, have children and not outsource them to child care, and not live singly to maximise state benefits.  For too many years we have suffered the lie that to promote marriage would be a value-laden social engineering interference, as though we have not been on the socially engineered receiving end of anti-marriage and anti-child (all lifestyles and family formations are equal ideology) policies for years. 

No wonder young people are disheartened, and put off marriage and having children when the only way a couple can afford to have a baby is not to be married and both to work full time, and when the only way to buy a property is to put both marriage and starting a family on a permanent back burner.

In the coming weeks we will be looking more closely at the policies of one country and one politician who has been courageous enough to buck this trend – Victor Orban’s Hungary.

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Kathy Gyngell
Kathy Gyngell
Kathy is Editor of The Conservative Woman. She is @kathygyngelltcw on GETTR and is back on Twitter.

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