In response to Laura Perrins: How feminism gave birth to the sex drought, HappyCheese wrote:
First of all let me say thank you for covering this topic again, after your highlighting of the sexodus piece a few years back. It appears the mainstream media has now caught up with things the manosphere (and CW) were highlighting 4-5 years ago. An increasing experience as I get older has been discovering that things I thought were only happening in my own life have in fact been happening all around me to significantly large percentages of the population all along.
I fear young people (Generation Z after the millennial mob) have been victimised by three interlinking trends in recent decades that have caused this drought. The first is the decades-long stagnation in wages that affects all ages, but has hit millennials particularly hard (a good article discusses this here, talking about housing etc.) This has disproportionately hammered millennial males since, while women may now be liberated and have their own money, they are still instinctively responsive both romantically and sexually to men who can display signs of filthy lucre; as a man you can complain about this, but it is just how women are.
The second problem is of course, the free market in (non-commercial) sex. Things like Tinder are like a lot of other helpful inventions in the digital era: they help people the most who generally need it the least, i.e. the people who are already attractive. Between men and women it distorts pre-existing cleavages in the male social hierarchy, creating a small class of desirable players with floating harems, a wide sexual underclass of dysfunctional incels, and a shrinking middle group of guys who can be settled for when most women fail to lock down a top tier male, as most will do. Neither gender comes out of the current free-for-all looking good, because those on either side at the bottom are more interested in acting like their peers further up the social hierarchy than challenging our current sexual arrangements. I predict falling marriage rates and collapsing birth rates will continue.
Finally, the terrible impact of feminism on men, male behaviour and our ideas/ideals around masculinity (which you admirably call out) are well known and I won’t rehash them here. Suffice it to say that feminists have been a catastrophe for Western men, and until this malign movement is stripped of its power, nothing will change.