In response to Julie Lynn: This transgender drama does no one any favours – least of all children, paul parmenter wrote:
Sorry, but all I see is a particularly effeminate boy.
The sexual spectrum is very wide, for both male and female. There is a long ‘tail’ to the male spectrum that is certainly long enough to encompass boys who feel desperately unhappy wearing plain, functional clothes, short hair, and being expected to play football and climb trees with the other lads; who feel much more comfortable and happy wearing pretty, ornate clothing, long hair, and playing dolls with the girls.
This does not mean that those boys actually are girls; that is a meaningless concept to me. I see them merely as ‘that sort’ of boy, those at the ‘feminine’ end of that long tail; in some cases perhaps even more girly than the average girl. But only because there is a big overlap in the male and female spectrums. Of course there is. We are not all bunched together at opposite poles with no common ground in between. In just the same way, there are masculine girls who can’t stand pretend tea parties, make-up or petticoats, and much prefer to wear jeans, wrestle with boys and tinker with engines. But they are still girls; just ‘that sort’ of girl, at the ‘masculine’ end of the female spectrum.
If we could, as a society, only accept these children and recognise that they do have a place that is still within the spectrum of the sex they were born into, and is rightfully theirs, and leave them alone to settle where they are happy, we would not need to torture them with ideas about being of the ‘wrong’ sex, or being ‘trapped in the wrong body’, giving rise to the need to ‘doctor’ them to force their sex to match their ‘gender’ (which is supposed to be fluid anyway, isn’t it?)
No need for operations, for removal or restructuring of bits of their bodies, for flooding them with hormones that their bodies are not generating naturally and that therefore, in my view, have no place there; or for playing dangerous mind games with them that are more likely to harm than help.
This leaves them safe and still with the option to change naturally when they hit puberty, and move back along the spectrum towards the more normal behaviour of their sex, if that is how they develop; or to confirm that they really are fixed in their place as effeminate men or masculine women, and that is where they want to stay.
We are not butterflies. We do not transition.