In response to Kathy Gyngell: Why are the PC brigade so scared of the word ‘Mother’?, Phil R wrote:
I have been to Holland a great many times. In the main it is a nice friendly place to live and to bring up kids and, by the way, a great place to work. Society in Holland has placed the family at the heart of much of the way society is ordered. This cannot be reversed or achieved overnight, but we seem to have very little concern about even making life pleasant for adults, never mind children. We have achieved the almost perfect selfish society. Congratulations, it is a disaster.
It is not just us, we are told that a proportion of Spanish kids now call their mother and father “Progenitor A and Progenitor B”. How many do this? I’ll hazard a guess that it is somewhere near zero, but the lie is told and retold none the less in the hope of destroying the family drip by drip.
Also, what Spanish kids? Spain’s fertility rate currently stands at 1.4. It fell below replacement 30 years ago. This isn’t just a fight about words on a form. It’s a fight about heteronormative understandings of sex in life and society. It’s a fight between autonomy and imposed obligation.
“Progenitors A & B” speak to autonomy. It speaks to a self-defined world of sex that values first and foremost the desires of the self. ‘Mother’ & ‘father’ speak to a world of normative heterosexuality where life is built around the natural and essential progression of a man from child to adult to parent. It bounds the desires of the self and drives it into the acceptance socially essential responsibility.
Autonomous private individuals are making autonomous private choice that in the aggregate will have devastating public consequences in the very near future. People are trading self-indulgence today for population decline tomorrow. This situation is not sustainable. It cannot last.
The West is searching for a public organisation so perfectly constructed that the individual can indulge his autonomous choices without risk. This is especially true in regard to sex. But biology doesn’t much care about our desires. Ultimately the State won’t either. If private individuals don’t voluntarily reverse that trend (and soon) then the government will force them to reverse that trend. The terms ‘Mother’ and ‘father’ will return with a vengeance. It’s simply a matter of ‘by whose hands?’ and ‘with how much force?’