In response to, Kathy Gyngell: Times ‘sexpert’ Suzi Godson talks sense on Woman’s Hour. Don’t tell Jenni Murray, BSO wrote:
If you look at Suzi Godson’s website you see she is a sex therapist and therefore works with couples. I would have thought that sexual intimacy is the area least likely to be improved by a one-sided stereotypical feminist approach. Both partners will need to express their feelings and work towards each other. Hence she will hear men in honest exploration and seek to encourage this and hence this is what I assume her research is based on.
Recently we seem to be awash with really shoddy sexual assault “research” based on dodgy non-randomised self-selecting groups and commissioned by organisations with major conflicts of interest. Have people seen Camille Paglia’s interview in Salon? Not a social conservative obviously, but she dismantles so much of the complacent smug Jenni Murray-like feminist approach.
An extract: “The erasure of motherhood from feminist rhetoric has led us to this current politicisation of sex talk, which doesn’t allow women to recognise their immense power vis-à-vis men. When motherhood was more at the centre of culture, you had mothers who understood the fragility of boys and their need for nurture and for confidence to overcome their weaknesses.”
“The old-style country women – the Italian matriarchs and Jewish mothers – they all understood the fragility of men. The mothers ruled their own world and didn’t take men that seriously. They understood how to nurture men and encourage them to be Strong – whereas current feminism simply doesn’t perceive the power of women vis-a-vis men. But when you talk like this with most men, it really resonates with them, and they say “Yes, yes! That’s it!”
Currently, feminists lack sympathy and compassion for men and for the difficulties that men face in the formation of their identities. I’m not talking in terms of the men’s rights movement, which got infected by PC. The heterosexual professional woman, emerging with her shiny Ivy League degree, wants to communicate with her husband exactly the way she communicates with her Friends – as in Sex and the City. That show really caught the animated way that women actually talk with each other. But that’s not a style that straight men can do! Gay men can do it, sure – but not straight men! Guess what – women are different than men! When will feminism wake up to this basic reality? Women relate differently to each other than they do to men. And straight men do not have the same communication skills or values as women – their brains are different!”Can you imagine what a rich discussion we could have about these matters if feminists did not have a stranglehold on civil, public policy, media and political leaderships?
Lastly, has anyone thought that Cameron’s pro-feminist leanings might relate to prep school maternal deprivation and a craving for nurture that led him into Camila Batmanghelidjh’s voluminous embrace? Just a thought…