Belinda Brown: Men don’t need to marry to get sex, Jimmy wrote:
An excellent article – thank you for writing it. This website really is great because it finds writers who have looked at the issues with reason and carefully thought about it. By contrast everything in The Guardian, The Daily Telegraph and especially The New Statesman is depressingly predictable; just the same trendy feminism from people who don’t understand human nature.
There’s little to add apart from one obvious point that often seems to be forgotten in the debate, I think. For decades we have been told by feminists that marriage was an awful controlling and wicked thing that enslaved women. By leaving behind the loving husband and lifetime of devotion and embracing promiscuity when young and then desperation when older, the modern woman has been “liberated”. It’s obviously a cruel lie but many seem oblivious to it. I read an article in the Telegraph’s women’s section where the feminist writing it spoke of women in the 1950s having been “dragged” into the home and kitchen.
The simple thought experiment is to ask why was it then and even continues today to be women that push for marriage. In a solid 95 per cent plus of people I know, it has been this way with men reluctant. Even in the past when a man couldn’t usually sleep with a woman until he had promised to spend his life devoted to her (thank God feminism saved women from that awful fate) it was still the case then if most literature is to be believed. So why is it that women want to join this terrible institution? The answer is that it wasn’t a terrible institution. It gave women security and love, far more important than the “right” to be promiscuous.
Most women would, if given the choice, devote most of their lives to raising children. To be frank it has often surprised me how near universal this predisposition is, with very intelligent and driven women I met at university a decade later, if they can, very often giving up all work to raise their family and those that can’t being miserable. But it shouldn’t surprise us; there is nothing more important than raising children. It is certainly more important than a career. It’s a real cruelty to women that so many are robbed of that precious chance to spend years with their child.
In the past a woman would devote herself and, yes, serve her husband. In return he would love her, provide for her and stay with her until the day he died. Today most women still serve a man; it is their boss at work. And they are far more likely to go home to a broken family. It is not a sign of progress, however much the feminists might insist it is. To think today so many women spend the bulk of their lives in a factory or call centre, devoting their energy to making the boss man richer, doing whatever he says, accepting his demands. And yet the 1960s onward feminists shrieked that it was oppression for a man to return from a day of gruelling physical work and hope to have dinner made.
Thank you again for the article.
