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The wretched unmarried state we’re in – and why the Leftie Tories won’t change a thing


Why are we so ashamed to make the modern case for marriage, the Telegraph asked this week.

Since we can no longer accuse marriage of being a ‘patriarchal’ (witness #MeToo Meghan and the institution’s new gay inclusiveness) why can’t today’s Tories just get on and argue for it? Especially when it’s such a promoter of social wellbeing, as Cristina Odone puts it.

More to the point might be to ask why the Tories stay so studiously silent about the mega-marriage crisis on our hands. I am not referring to who is walking Meghan down the aisle today. The crisis I am talking of is the plummeting marriage rates amongst the poor and now, increasingly, the ‘squeezed middle’. It’s called the marriage gap and it is getting wider as marriage rates sink to new lows.

It’s reflected in the desperate statistic that only 24 per cent of poor girls today will realise the wedded bliss they all still hope for. Middle-class girls fare little better. Only the richest girls are lucky enough still to be able to count on catching their man.

This all has consequences. Soon more babies will be born out of wedlock than in it – and by 16 most will not living with both their parents.

With the best parenting intent in the world, and all the money the State throws at these fragmental families, it still condemns millions of children to diminished life chances for want of a father and family stability.

You’d think this coming apart of society would be of deep concern to the happily married and seeker-out of burning injustice Mrs May.

You would think that this of all weekends, as the nation works itself into fever pitch over THE wedding – of the popular Prince Harry to his perfectly modern #MeToo princess – would be the ideal moment to announce a new pro-marriage policy and make the wishes of all those girls dreaming of their big day come true.

But it won’t happen. Not for lack of knowledge but because today’s Tories are Lefties. No matter how many times the case for marriage has been made, the Tories are having none of it. They’ve adopted the Left’s economic inequality ideology hook, line and sinker.

The real reason why they won’t, and can’t, is that they have been complicit in the Left’s mission to destroy marriage. They still are – with gender parity and round-the-clock state childcare knobs on.

That’s why we won’t hear Mrs May, any more than we’ll hear Mr Corbyn or Mr Khan, make the connection between marriage breakdown, fatherlessness, social dysfunction, violence and crime.

The Conservatives have long since bought into Labour’s Marxist and Statist anti-family agenda. They have long since spent our taxes servicing it.

What the Soviets did overtly to destroy the nuclear family, the Tories have achieved even more successfully covertly. Yet they are not even at step one of acknowledging this. They are nowhere near admitting that under the Left’s three-decade family and child nationalisation programme, the family has been dislocated from marriage, women from men and child care from mothers, and that because of this the nation’s family life has become unmanageable.

They are still far off doing a moral inventory of themselves or admitting the damage they’ve done to society. They are still in denial, not ready to apologise, let alone to make amends, to those they have wronged – namely the married fathers bearing a disproportionate burden of the nation’s taxation, the fatherless children and the mothers unable to protect their sons from knife crime.

The Tories have a long way to go before they set out on the programme of action needed to set relationships and responsibilities straight.

That would mean dismantling Gordon Brown’s multi-billion-pound Working and Child Tax Credits legacy that’s trapped four-fifths of all families in a State tax and welfare churn, made benefit-dependent couples £7,000 a year better off if they live apart and failed to ‘lift children out of poverty’.

Even the Right-wing press don’t seem able to make the connection that you are not going to get marriage with this edifice in place.

Even they don’t get that there’s a choice about which lifestyle you want to incentivise – state dependence or married independence. Or that the latter requires a radical redirection of resources (to fully transferable tax allowances and marriage-contingent child tax allowances) and that nothing less can reverse the trend.

It’s a major manifesto commitment or nothing.

Expecting voters to mend their marriage ways without making it economically viable is like telling them their children would be better off at grammar or public schools that don’t exist or that they have no money to pay for.

Is there anyone in the Conservative Party who understands the extent of their betrayal or what making the case for marriage really would involve?

Not one, I fear. Not unless they’re prepared to take a dose of honesty medicine about the consequences of the miserable socialist, feminised and dysfunctional unmarried state they signed up to, and that we’re in.

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Kathy Gyngell
Kathy Gyngell
Kathy is Editor of The Conservative Woman. She is @kathygyngelltcw on GETTR and is back on Twitter.

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